QLD court was for child custody ( as referred to in my time) and property settlement hearing. It was supposed to last 1-2 days at most. A week before trial, my eldest child (our child, we have 4) had a breakdown and told the doctor by herself at the clinic that she was sexually abused by her father and was in such a state, she was admitted to a child's mental health unit. Unbeknownst to me, she was protecting her little sister and 2 younger brothers from abuse and her youngest sister and herself from sexual abuse.
My ex and I separated when youngest was 6 months old. I knew the law and have always agreed that children need both parents equally, so the father was free to have the children and they were free to see their father whenever they wished to have contact. Domestic Violence re me escalated beyond comprehension after I separated (and it was incomprehensible prior). My limited knowledge of Domestic Violence was only if someone hit their partner with a frying pan. However, when I married r**e, physical abuse of children and wives were not seen as illegal and there was no such law pertaining to r**e within marriage by law. The father/husband had ownership of family. They could take away children from the mother, leave her without financial help whether married or not as they held the finances, and take the children away with him.
The mothers / women had not much of any legal help or rights apart from killing her or children, no gov help.
Divorce was not an option and women were not to say anything against husband. In fact, wives, even if they knew what the husband did unlawfully, were not and could not be used as a witness. No laws against r**e, sex abuse in a marriage. A wife was to 'obey' husband.
Anyway, rang the police but the ex's brother was in the police force and the QLD Commissioner at the time, spent holidays at his father's vineyard in Vic. The police were not helpful, including his brother or C.I.B.
Try and cut it short, the judge was also in old boys club along with my solicitor, ex and his brother. The father and the judge I had in court said 'well she (me) states here he can have everything so that's what she wants, that's what she gets.' I happily gave houses and everything to the ex but the judge, because my eldest daughter was admitted to mental health unit a week before court, disregarded this fact even though my barrister stood up and asked this matter be adjourned till investigations into my daughter's claim could be done. But the judge ignored this including the witness doctor, whom my child disclosed this information to. My own doctor also personally came into court stating I was unfit to appear in court on each of the first 3 days of court. The judge stated 'if I hear another person tell me the mother is unfit to carry on, I myself will place her in a mental facility and have her assessed and the child taken away from her! You have 15 mins recess to tell me if she can continue or not!'
I wrote one affidavit, meanwhile, ex had already filed an affidavit and my solicitor didn't show me it nor the second affidavit the ex wrote against my first affidavit. However my solicitor stated that the judge would not allow this. Well, the Judge did!
He went by my first affidavit and the ex's second affidavit. The ex wrote praises in his first affidavit stating I was a doting wife, mother and all other praises. His second was in defence with evidence and expert witnesses of my first and only affidavit. Evidence, expert witness, people he had sexually abused when they were children stood up before the court, including other witnesses regarding my now 5-year-old daughter.
He had illegally kidnapped my two sons. The judge ordered federal police to obtain them, however, my barrister (another old boys club member) talked me out of it all afternoon till I agreed, saying it was for the best interest of the children not for the federal police to pick up my sons. I never saw them again (it has been 10 years).
The Judge gave our 5-year-old to the father even though the ex didn't want her due to the shift work, but the judge claimed he didn't want my baby girl to be in the same house as my eldest daughter who was in a mental health unit and told the father that my boys went to a good school, the same one he had attended (private school) as he had been there himself honourary special guest, and my sons could look after their 5-year-old sister who does not even remember living with the ex nor went to school at the time.
My sons were 13 and 15 years old. My 5-year-old was traumatised, frightened, had nightmares, was bruised and sexually abused, not just by the father, but my sons copying their father. Even the CLR was in the old boys club and several people complained and rang the CLR, DOCS but the ex's brother, a senior sergeant spoke to DOCS and the police, and they did nothing. DOCS did not even check the information sent to me by my child and the other persons' complaints when she came to me with severe bruising on her feet, back, bottom, and locked outside in the cold, with no food, making her do things to him, which she did to any male she saw (sexual acts).
My problem is, all statements, affidavits, photos, and medical records disappeared from the police station and the solicitors did not refer to them nor show them. I have in my possession evidence. I won an appeal in the high courts due to the wrongfulness of the judge and dismissing expert witnesses, stating wrongful facts, drunkness during trial and much worse.
My solicitor and barrister failed to tell me I had 28 days to obtain one transcript that costs $18,000 for one and I required 9 copies for the High court. Hence, as I didn't have enough time to raise $ 18,000 for one, let alone for 9 transcripts and lost the chance to appeal due to time and money. Still the ex continued, to this day, break court orders.
The ex became worse and would not allow my boys to see me or contact me nor their oldest sister and throughout this process, domestic violence heightened. A 2 year permanent Domestic Violence was placed on him (old school terminology) but that didn't stop him. He breached these but the photos the police took of criminal physical damages to me disappeared and he got away as there was no evidence that police took or shown in court. He was placed several times on a temp domestic violence on me and all the while, I was recovering from radical spinal operation that made me 2.5 cm
Taller, with advance cancer, metastatic but he was charged with being vindictive and malicious and made to pay all court costs plus my costs of Legal fee for continuing to try and place temp DV's on me on false grounds.
However, he continued to break orders and as he is classed as a psychopath, sociopath ( yes there is a difference) kleptomaniac, maras distil, and highly intelligent to point of mastermind and trained in America brainwashing techniques, black belt in karate, Taekwondo and judo, he has made it that I haven't seen my youngest daughter now, going over 3 years.
He still torments me, stalks me, does things I do not know about until I come across and ask why something has been stopped only to find out he is behind it all, and my eldest daughter who just the other day, I placed on suicide watch and now is in the mental health hospital after she saw her father who had convinced her to meet him.
So where does a person with multiple disabilities including but not limited to, unable to sign, use hands, wheelchair bound, physically weak, speech can go on, etc., to get help with contravention of orders plus give evidence to DOCS, police, or whomever, regarding paperwork of evidence and proof?
Emotionally I cannot handle reading the material of my children nor can I tell what he has done to me but I need help. Where does a disability person get support and help?
Legal aid has stated that if I can't at least sign or have trouble with speech and I can't fill in forms, etc., they are not equipped here and funding wouldn't allow it. So is there any organisation or paralegals or somewhere or someone who can sort it out and I will pay for copies to give them for the DOCS, the police or who and wherever they are supposed to legally go to, plus help me get written down on paper what he has done to me and support me in court?
Everyone is worried about my health. I am not. The only thing that haunts me is that I may never see my youngest daughter, let alone my sons before I pass away and I will keep fighting till my last breath as my doctors keep saying to me, shaking their heads. But hardest is finding a person, organisation, someone who can handle a severe series of grotesque incidents and not be affected, and I only have to mention just one thing they (no one, not even professional therapist) can handle.
Plus I'm under the highest hospital security given.
Any advice? Can't find a solicitor smart enough for him. I know his patterns and solicitors look like and are fools compared to him. He found a barrister clever enough to, at least, sway a judge but need a solicitor.
Anyone know of an organisation to assist and to sort out paperwork evidence? Something? Anything?
Please help.
My ex and I separated when youngest was 6 months old. I knew the law and have always agreed that children need both parents equally, so the father was free to have the children and they were free to see their father whenever they wished to have contact. Domestic Violence re me escalated beyond comprehension after I separated (and it was incomprehensible prior). My limited knowledge of Domestic Violence was only if someone hit their partner with a frying pan. However, when I married r**e, physical abuse of children and wives were not seen as illegal and there was no such law pertaining to r**e within marriage by law. The father/husband had ownership of family. They could take away children from the mother, leave her without financial help whether married or not as they held the finances, and take the children away with him.
The mothers / women had not much of any legal help or rights apart from killing her or children, no gov help.
Divorce was not an option and women were not to say anything against husband. In fact, wives, even if they knew what the husband did unlawfully, were not and could not be used as a witness. No laws against r**e, sex abuse in a marriage. A wife was to 'obey' husband.
Anyway, rang the police but the ex's brother was in the police force and the QLD Commissioner at the time, spent holidays at his father's vineyard in Vic. The police were not helpful, including his brother or C.I.B.
Try and cut it short, the judge was also in old boys club along with my solicitor, ex and his brother. The father and the judge I had in court said 'well she (me) states here he can have everything so that's what she wants, that's what she gets.' I happily gave houses and everything to the ex but the judge, because my eldest daughter was admitted to mental health unit a week before court, disregarded this fact even though my barrister stood up and asked this matter be adjourned till investigations into my daughter's claim could be done. But the judge ignored this including the witness doctor, whom my child disclosed this information to. My own doctor also personally came into court stating I was unfit to appear in court on each of the first 3 days of court. The judge stated 'if I hear another person tell me the mother is unfit to carry on, I myself will place her in a mental facility and have her assessed and the child taken away from her! You have 15 mins recess to tell me if she can continue or not!'
I wrote one affidavit, meanwhile, ex had already filed an affidavit and my solicitor didn't show me it nor the second affidavit the ex wrote against my first affidavit. However my solicitor stated that the judge would not allow this. Well, the Judge did!
He went by my first affidavit and the ex's second affidavit. The ex wrote praises in his first affidavit stating I was a doting wife, mother and all other praises. His second was in defence with evidence and expert witnesses of my first and only affidavit. Evidence, expert witness, people he had sexually abused when they were children stood up before the court, including other witnesses regarding my now 5-year-old daughter.
He had illegally kidnapped my two sons. The judge ordered federal police to obtain them, however, my barrister (another old boys club member) talked me out of it all afternoon till I agreed, saying it was for the best interest of the children not for the federal police to pick up my sons. I never saw them again (it has been 10 years).
The Judge gave our 5-year-old to the father even though the ex didn't want her due to the shift work, but the judge claimed he didn't want my baby girl to be in the same house as my eldest daughter who was in a mental health unit and told the father that my boys went to a good school, the same one he had attended (private school) as he had been there himself honourary special guest, and my sons could look after their 5-year-old sister who does not even remember living with the ex nor went to school at the time.
My sons were 13 and 15 years old. My 5-year-old was traumatised, frightened, had nightmares, was bruised and sexually abused, not just by the father, but my sons copying their father. Even the CLR was in the old boys club and several people complained and rang the CLR, DOCS but the ex's brother, a senior sergeant spoke to DOCS and the police, and they did nothing. DOCS did not even check the information sent to me by my child and the other persons' complaints when she came to me with severe bruising on her feet, back, bottom, and locked outside in the cold, with no food, making her do things to him, which she did to any male she saw (sexual acts).
My problem is, all statements, affidavits, photos, and medical records disappeared from the police station and the solicitors did not refer to them nor show them. I have in my possession evidence. I won an appeal in the high courts due to the wrongfulness of the judge and dismissing expert witnesses, stating wrongful facts, drunkness during trial and much worse.
My solicitor and barrister failed to tell me I had 28 days to obtain one transcript that costs $18,000 for one and I required 9 copies for the High court. Hence, as I didn't have enough time to raise $ 18,000 for one, let alone for 9 transcripts and lost the chance to appeal due to time and money. Still the ex continued, to this day, break court orders.
The ex became worse and would not allow my boys to see me or contact me nor their oldest sister and throughout this process, domestic violence heightened. A 2 year permanent Domestic Violence was placed on him (old school terminology) but that didn't stop him. He breached these but the photos the police took of criminal physical damages to me disappeared and he got away as there was no evidence that police took or shown in court. He was placed several times on a temp domestic violence on me and all the while, I was recovering from radical spinal operation that made me 2.5 cm
Taller, with advance cancer, metastatic but he was charged with being vindictive and malicious and made to pay all court costs plus my costs of Legal fee for continuing to try and place temp DV's on me on false grounds.
However, he continued to break orders and as he is classed as a psychopath, sociopath ( yes there is a difference) kleptomaniac, maras distil, and highly intelligent to point of mastermind and trained in America brainwashing techniques, black belt in karate, Taekwondo and judo, he has made it that I haven't seen my youngest daughter now, going over 3 years.
He still torments me, stalks me, does things I do not know about until I come across and ask why something has been stopped only to find out he is behind it all, and my eldest daughter who just the other day, I placed on suicide watch and now is in the mental health hospital after she saw her father who had convinced her to meet him.
So where does a person with multiple disabilities including but not limited to, unable to sign, use hands, wheelchair bound, physically weak, speech can go on, etc., to get help with contravention of orders plus give evidence to DOCS, police, or whomever, regarding paperwork of evidence and proof?
Emotionally I cannot handle reading the material of my children nor can I tell what he has done to me but I need help. Where does a disability person get support and help?
Legal aid has stated that if I can't at least sign or have trouble with speech and I can't fill in forms, etc., they are not equipped here and funding wouldn't allow it. So is there any organisation or paralegals or somewhere or someone who can sort it out and I will pay for copies to give them for the DOCS, the police or who and wherever they are supposed to legally go to, plus help me get written down on paper what he has done to me and support me in court?
Everyone is worried about my health. I am not. The only thing that haunts me is that I may never see my youngest daughter, let alone my sons before I pass away and I will keep fighting till my last breath as my doctors keep saying to me, shaking their heads. But hardest is finding a person, organisation, someone who can handle a severe series of grotesque incidents and not be affected, and I only have to mention just one thing they (no one, not even professional therapist) can handle.
Plus I'm under the highest hospital security given.
Any advice? Can't find a solicitor smart enough for him. I know his patterns and solicitors look like and are fools compared to him. He found a barrister clever enough to, at least, sway a judge but need a solicitor.
Anyone know of an organisation to assist and to sort out paperwork evidence? Something? Anything?
Please help.