We don't have final orders yet. We broke up 9 years ago. We had a great relationship, not just amicable but lovely coparenting for years. I had the kids 6 nights a fortnight, and would spend an extra night or three at her place parenting the kids.
Until I ran out of money and couldn't pay her mortgage anymore.
She made the baseless claim that I was a danger of kidnapping the children and withdrew my time entirely. About 4 months later, she agreed to 3.5 hours on tuesdays, and 7 on Sundays.
Today she's sent me a message letting me know that she's planned her family christmas to be on boxing day, and that the kids don't want to miss out on that, so please could I swap days.
Which of course, I will have to do.
The problem is that I am really wanting to say something that will play out well in the family court (whern we get there!) for our custodial hearing.
She has been a massive control freak at every turn for every issue. She will ignore court orders if it suits her. Or even just on a whim.
This must have been arranged some time ago, and it's only today that she's asked. I think only because the kids pointed out that boxing day was my day.
It's frustrating that her family could choose any time over the christmas period to celebrate christmas, yet choose the only few hours that they alocated to me.
Will the court even care about this behaviour?
Can I say anything I want?
What should my response be?
Until I ran out of money and couldn't pay her mortgage anymore.
She made the baseless claim that I was a danger of kidnapping the children and withdrew my time entirely. About 4 months later, she agreed to 3.5 hours on tuesdays, and 7 on Sundays.
Today she's sent me a message letting me know that she's planned her family christmas to be on boxing day, and that the kids don't want to miss out on that, so please could I swap days.
Which of course, I will have to do.
The problem is that I am really wanting to say something that will play out well in the family court (whern we get there!) for our custodial hearing.
She has been a massive control freak at every turn for every issue. She will ignore court orders if it suits her. Or even just on a whim.
This must have been arranged some time ago, and it's only today that she's asked. I think only because the kids pointed out that boxing day was my day.
It's frustrating that her family could choose any time over the christmas period to celebrate christmas, yet choose the only few hours that they alocated to me.
Will the court even care about this behaviour?
Can I say anything I want?
What should my response be?