Waste of time...
You're playing the wrong game.... The game you're playing is called 'he said, she said.
The game you need to play is 'best interest of the child'.
Mate, you can go and do a great job in court of proving the ex is a liar, hypochondriac, narcissist, psychogenic, Nazi. Big deal. So what? And in fact, in doing so, you're actually hurting your cause. Get a nice cuppa tea and sit down because I want you to read this over a few times until it actually sinks in...
Your case is that you're a great dad and you're prepared to work with mum when all this settles down. You are child focused, your only concern is raising the child you share with mum and you want to do it in a way that 'is in the best interest of the child'. That is your only concern. Nothing else.
So if you want record phone calls to prove she is a liar, what you're doing is telling the judge that you're not child focused, your focus is on proving to the world that the mum is a twit.... Have a good read of the family law legislation. It does not have a twit clause in there anywhere. It has 'best interest of the child'.
So you go to court intent on proving that mum is a twit and you (kinda) succeed.... Well all you have actually done is shown the magistrate that there is lots of conflict between you and mum... Mum hates you and you are intent on proving mum is a twit. OK great - but how does that get you more time with the child? how does that relate to the child? It doesn't! Nope, I'm wrong it does, but in a negative way and in fact it hurts your case....
The ex wants conflict, lots of it... Why? Well then the magistrate can say that as parents you guys are dysfunctional, there is too much conflict and the child needs to be protected from the conflict (how is your cuppa tea going?).
So how does the magistrate ensure that the child is protected from the conflict between liar mum and a dad who is intent of focusing on proving mum is a liar? The kid stays with one parent... Guess who that is gonna be...
This ain't TV - Forget the 'truth' and 'proving' her wrong...
Watch this -
Great acting - but not real life court...
Final thought from me for today - Mate I get it, I really do...Not legal advice right now - just life experience. You need to learn how to become Teflon.
If you let her BS screw with your life, if you spend the majority of your time walking about stewing on the fact that she has lied and worse if you spend your time trying to prove those lies you will lose... Even IF you manage to show her lies for what they are... (how is your cuppa - might be time to refill)...
So I'm an English teacher - love my job, but it is holidays... So I'm gonna give you some homework... Might give you a bit of a different perspective on how to approach this madness...
have a read
If— by Rudyard Kipling