Hi, I am new to this forum. I have a beautiful 4-month-old baby girl. Long story, sorry... I have been in a relationship with my partner (also a lady) since 2012. Unfortunately, we had a huge fight and for about 6-months we broke up at the end of 2014 into 2015. During this breakup, I hung out with someone else, and in my depressed and confused state wasn't thinking about consequences and got pregnant. Don't get me started on my wrong choices. The father of my baby has also been a long-term drug user and drinker and during the time I stayed at his house, he began to use ice (I did not know what it was or the nature of it at the time until I told his mum and she completely freaked). I left for many reasons, this including, and reconciled with my long-term partner and got counselling soon after I found out I was pregnant. During the course of the pregnancy, there was quite a bit of emotional abuse from him, him calling me a coward for not having an abortion, telling me his family hates me, etc. pouring out to me that he might die and all his drug problems. They were all he talked about and trying to talk things over with him calmly became an impossibility. Also the pregnancy hormones and stress of being pregnant overwhelmed me. He also turned up at our house uninvited and very high a couple of times. This disturbed me a lot. Unfortunately, when I was about 8 months pregnant, he threatened my current partner with a death threat when he lost his temper after she tried to stick up for me. He ended up with a Safe Contact IVO put on him by the police for 12 months based on his statement alone! I have still decided to do the right thing and have put him on the birth certificate, didn't name the child a name without his input and consent, and have allowed him and his family to see her. But every time we see him he is either smoking or very high or coming down or having a hangover. Also, I suspect that his parents enable him by being complacent. They certainly seem to be ok with him being under the influence around my baby because they keep asking to see her with him. It is wearying. He keeps promising to go into rehab and stay. He was "kicked out" for bad behavior, twice since I've known him. He had a "manic episode", his words, and now is "trying to get back in". His sister says he has "no insight whatsoever" about his drug addiction and thinks he isn't hardcore because he takes only such and such mg's of ice each time... Now I am thinking of applying for sole parental responsibility because if he thinks it is ok to turn up under the influence around my baby now, he will think it is ok when she is 5, or 10, or 15. I don't want to be a jerk, but I also want to feel that my baby is safe. My current partner and I are stable again and are raising my baby with lots of love. She also wants to adopt my baby when it is legal. I know it would have been easy to pretend that he was a donor for us and she is the legal parent etc. But I am all for truth and fairness, and I want to do the right thing always so technically, my partner is her step-parent. However, he is not really doing much to assure me that my baby will be safe around him and his family. Should I do this, and what are the chances I will be granted sole custody of children under family law? If I don't do this, what might happen? I assure you my baby will know her origins and we plan to be completely honest and open with her about her father.