My children’s father lives in Europe. I have lived here in Victoria after relocation orders to Australia were agreed in 2008.
My ex has come in and out of the children’s lives for the last 9 years... the children are now 11 and 12 and have little interest in a relationship with him. They have tolerated my insisting they meet up with him for the last 4 years (for a day or so when in Europe) but are getting to an age where it is more difficult to do so...
He has now taken me to court here in Australia asking for ten days with them twice a year, a family report has been done but the family report writer thinks they are influenced by me...I am happy for the children to see him when they want to and that is why I insisted they see him the last few years so they kept some kind of connection... they don’t like him as a person (they think he is odd)
My suggested orders state that given the children’s age and opinions that visitation should be on their terms....
I’m not sure what else to suggest or what is reasonable given the distance and lack of relationship between the parties (we separated when my eldest was 10 months and I was pregnant with the now 11 year old)
I can’t find any similar situations
I’m open to them seeing him but they have refused to spend time with him since they were 5 and 6 years old (he went 2 years without seeing them or having contact-his choice) they will only go if i’m present... and I can’t do ten days at a time (nor would he want that)- any ideas for how to move forward? How to encourage an interest? What I should suggest and expect at court given distance etc
Help
My ex has come in and out of the children’s lives for the last 9 years... the children are now 11 and 12 and have little interest in a relationship with him. They have tolerated my insisting they meet up with him for the last 4 years (for a day or so when in Europe) but are getting to an age where it is more difficult to do so...
He has now taken me to court here in Australia asking for ten days with them twice a year, a family report has been done but the family report writer thinks they are influenced by me...I am happy for the children to see him when they want to and that is why I insisted they see him the last few years so they kept some kind of connection... they don’t like him as a person (they think he is odd)
My suggested orders state that given the children’s age and opinions that visitation should be on their terms....
I’m not sure what else to suggest or what is reasonable given the distance and lack of relationship between the parties (we separated when my eldest was 10 months and I was pregnant with the now 11 year old)
I can’t find any similar situations
I’m open to them seeing him but they have refused to spend time with him since they were 5 and 6 years old (he went 2 years without seeing them or having contact-his choice) they will only go if i’m present... and I can’t do ten days at a time (nor would he want that)- any ideas for how to move forward? How to encourage an interest? What I should suggest and expect at court given distance etc
Help
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