Knowing my partner had had two unreasonable and irrational prior 'anger flips', always happened when he had been drinking alcohol, the third time he flipped to anger in February this year I made three small video recordings via my mobile, with the third being two minutes before he punched me to the face then demolished my mobile to destroy video and so I couldn't call anyone.
Because I had an SD card in my mobile, the videos saved to that, he didn't know to destroy the SD card so I still have the videos.
I videod because I was scared of what was going to happen. I videod as his recollection after the other two of his anger outbursts were so bizarre that I wanted to be able to show him when he was sober how irrational he is.
Prior to taking the first video I posted on my expartners facebook post that he was being irrational ATM. One of his mates replied. Then I replied 'I should record him'.
I then repeated that to my expartner saying 'I should record you'.
I didn't hold my mobile in my hand to video shot as in objects, I hit record and placed my mobile on the coffee table, so the picture is of the roof, but the voices (conversation) are clear.
In one video he goes off on a verbal rampage of 'woman' how woman are all the same, love being loved but we are horrible miserable selfish beings. Then you hear his voice change to mocking and he says 'r**e, don't touch me, it's r**e'. I was horrified that anyone could mock play what would be a horrific event in anyone's life of r**e. He wasn't screaming r**e, he was mocking it.
In the second video you hear me say stop pushing me your hurting me, twice. Then you hear him say 'well get off me your hurting me'. I replied 'I'm sitting on the couch, I'm not on you'. He replied 'well your squashing my stomach'. I say bewildered 'your stomach doesn't stick out that far'. He replied 'well it does now because I just ate KFC'.... The significance of this video shows how petty and irrational he is.
The third and last video he's twisting things on me saying how fckd in the head I am and I get stupid ideas in my head. ???. Then you see him come into the picture (as prior the video was just recording the ceiling from where I sat my mobile on the coffee table) he makes an overhead swing motion then swoops his arm/hand down at me as if going to hit me, but on the downward swoop he veers his hand down to the coffee table to pick up his mobile phone. And as he walks away you hear him laugh mockingly because I flinched.
Two minutes later he punched me.
He is charged with common assault and damage to property.
1) Will the court accept my videos as evidence, or will his lawyer try to have this thrown out?
Also. I have text messages a week after between myself and his exfiance . Exfiance was with him 18 years. In these messages she states 'he has a very angry side to him' 'I can understand how you would be scared of him' 'he wore me down emotionally and mentally over the years'.
2) Is it useful to show these in court to back up my accusations of him, or again will his lawyer have any grounds to have them thrown out and not accepted.
.... Sorry for the long post. I haven't been to court before. Terrified as he revenge charged me a month later (as he promised if I had him charged) saying that I assaulted him first and I did not lay a finger on him. It's so sad.
I swear I would never recommend for domestic abuse victims to go to the police. I wish I hadn't. Traumatic, but much less traumatic to walk away and let them get away with it.
Because I had an SD card in my mobile, the videos saved to that, he didn't know to destroy the SD card so I still have the videos.
I videod because I was scared of what was going to happen. I videod as his recollection after the other two of his anger outbursts were so bizarre that I wanted to be able to show him when he was sober how irrational he is.
Prior to taking the first video I posted on my expartners facebook post that he was being irrational ATM. One of his mates replied. Then I replied 'I should record him'.
I then repeated that to my expartner saying 'I should record you'.
I didn't hold my mobile in my hand to video shot as in objects, I hit record and placed my mobile on the coffee table, so the picture is of the roof, but the voices (conversation) are clear.
In one video he goes off on a verbal rampage of 'woman' how woman are all the same, love being loved but we are horrible miserable selfish beings. Then you hear his voice change to mocking and he says 'r**e, don't touch me, it's r**e'. I was horrified that anyone could mock play what would be a horrific event in anyone's life of r**e. He wasn't screaming r**e, he was mocking it.
In the second video you hear me say stop pushing me your hurting me, twice. Then you hear him say 'well get off me your hurting me'. I replied 'I'm sitting on the couch, I'm not on you'. He replied 'well your squashing my stomach'. I say bewildered 'your stomach doesn't stick out that far'. He replied 'well it does now because I just ate KFC'.... The significance of this video shows how petty and irrational he is.
The third and last video he's twisting things on me saying how fckd in the head I am and I get stupid ideas in my head. ???. Then you see him come into the picture (as prior the video was just recording the ceiling from where I sat my mobile on the coffee table) he makes an overhead swing motion then swoops his arm/hand down at me as if going to hit me, but on the downward swoop he veers his hand down to the coffee table to pick up his mobile phone. And as he walks away you hear him laugh mockingly because I flinched.
Two minutes later he punched me.
He is charged with common assault and damage to property.
1) Will the court accept my videos as evidence, or will his lawyer try to have this thrown out?
Also. I have text messages a week after between myself and his exfiance . Exfiance was with him 18 years. In these messages she states 'he has a very angry side to him' 'I can understand how you would be scared of him' 'he wore me down emotionally and mentally over the years'.
2) Is it useful to show these in court to back up my accusations of him, or again will his lawyer have any grounds to have them thrown out and not accepted.
.... Sorry for the long post. I haven't been to court before. Terrified as he revenge charged me a month later (as he promised if I had him charged) saying that I assaulted him first and I did not lay a finger on him. It's so sad.
I swear I would never recommend for domestic abuse victims to go to the police. I wish I hadn't. Traumatic, but much less traumatic to walk away and let them get away with it.