Hi all,
I really hope someone can help me.
I'm from NZ, and all of my family are back there. I came to Australia 9 years ago to be with my ex partner and we had a baby girl.
Long story short, he has barely been a part of my (now 7yo) daughter's life. I have encouraged him for years to see her more often. He has gotten worse, at the moment has gone 4 months without any contact. He missed her first day of school, has never seen her at school, dance, footy etc.
Neither of us have family or close friends here, so there are no support networks.
I would love to take my daughter back to NZ, to be surrounded by family and have an amazing childhood around where I grew up. We would have so much support, on a personal level I'll also be able to access financial support and start studying (which I'm unable to do here in oz).
I have asked him if we could leave and organise holiday visits, and he refused. Yet he has essentially abandoned her.
We have been through mediation, and I'm in the process of trying to set up a family conference (fdr) to be able to apply to court. This has been hard as he wouldn't even give me an address or email for the application.
My other option is just packing up and moving to NZ. I *think* we'd be exempt from The Hague convention as there's no orders, but I think my ex could file for a recovery order. If he did, how closely would they look at his home life? He jumps from job to job, has no assets, is an alcoholic, and (obviously) makes no effort to have a role in my daughter's life.
I've been researching for days, and most info I find that related to me involves court orders of which we have none.
I just want the best for my daughter, and our life in this isolated little town is not it. Any advice??
Thank you so much if you took the time to read all of this
I really hope someone can help me.
I'm from NZ, and all of my family are back there. I came to Australia 9 years ago to be with my ex partner and we had a baby girl.
Long story short, he has barely been a part of my (now 7yo) daughter's life. I have encouraged him for years to see her more often. He has gotten worse, at the moment has gone 4 months without any contact. He missed her first day of school, has never seen her at school, dance, footy etc.
Neither of us have family or close friends here, so there are no support networks.
I would love to take my daughter back to NZ, to be surrounded by family and have an amazing childhood around where I grew up. We would have so much support, on a personal level I'll also be able to access financial support and start studying (which I'm unable to do here in oz).
I have asked him if we could leave and organise holiday visits, and he refused. Yet he has essentially abandoned her.
We have been through mediation, and I'm in the process of trying to set up a family conference (fdr) to be able to apply to court. This has been hard as he wouldn't even give me an address or email for the application.
My other option is just packing up and moving to NZ. I *think* we'd be exempt from The Hague convention as there's no orders, but I think my ex could file for a recovery order. If he did, how closely would they look at his home life? He jumps from job to job, has no assets, is an alcoholic, and (obviously) makes no effort to have a role in my daughter's life.
I've been researching for days, and most info I find that related to me involves court orders of which we have none.
I just want the best for my daughter, and our life in this isolated little town is not it. Any advice??
Thank you so much if you took the time to read all of this