Your emotions will likely be a mess right now and you are probably not thinking clearly.
What general part of Vic are located?
If you don't understand family law, then you should see a lawyer. If close to the eastern side of Melb I may be help. Go to
www.vichelp.com.au to find my email address.
In the meantime, change all banking passwords, set up new accounts if you have to, take back control of bills and tax that affect your income. Do nothing about rates and other household bills if she is living in the property. Let her worry about those for the moment.
And yes, you may be being setup for an IVO. Even if not, act like you are.
It is going to be hard for you and it may pay to stop contact for a few weeks till you get your head around your options. If needed, call Mensline for coping advice.
I suspect your partner has had this planned for some time and just the sheer amount of bills and notices she is receiving probably meant she could not hide them anymore.
Priorities:
- Keep working
- Find a stable place to live for the moment
- Keep eating well and sleeping
- Start getting bookwork in order
Then, start planning your next steps, including reading up on family law.