left my ex last April and moved out in July. Since then things have been relatively amicable, 50/50 access. Unfortunately after Christmas things deteriorated. I blocked her on my phone, email, FB etc told her about my new girlfriend and told her to stay away. I'd had enough, she also had some things of mine in the garage. She lives in the same street as me and one evening I went and knocked on her door, no response so I used a spare key to try and get into the garage to get some items which we were in dispute over. I couldn't get access and left after 5 mins. She didn't phone the police, but phoned her friend.
Stupid and regrettable thing to do, she was in the house at the time (I didn't realise) and could see me on the security cameras. That was the first incident of any kind since separating. She was obviously freaked out and scared. The police arrived yesterday with a FVRO. It states we are allowed contact via email, sms and facetime but only regarding the kids. She has been emailing me the last 24 hours regarding the kids. I have 50/50 care with the kids and am still allowed on the property for handovers. I haven't responded to her emails as I'm fearful of breaching the FVRO.
I got a copy of the avadavat and in it it states the incident, which she describes more or less as it happened, then it describes in 3 other separate boxes other incidents and dates, presumably so they can see a pattern.
box 1 - the incident 26 jan 2019
box 2 - multiple abusive SMS messages by myself (we had separated but were living together) 18 aug 2018
box 3 - I grabbed her by the throat. This isn't true. I'm an 85kg rugby player and she's 55kg. We had a party with 20+ guests, she wasn't visibly upset or have any marks on her. She got in my face and I pushed her away. Irrespectively it's my word vs her word. This incident occurred back in dec 2007 and was the only physical incident in our 17 year relationship.
I've never displayed any signs of violence towards her. We've been pretty amicable, spending Xms together as a family. What are the chances of my objection being successful.
Stupid and regrettable thing to do, she was in the house at the time (I didn't realise) and could see me on the security cameras. That was the first incident of any kind since separating. She was obviously freaked out and scared. The police arrived yesterday with a FVRO. It states we are allowed contact via email, sms and facetime but only regarding the kids. She has been emailing me the last 24 hours regarding the kids. I have 50/50 care with the kids and am still allowed on the property for handovers. I haven't responded to her emails as I'm fearful of breaching the FVRO.
I got a copy of the avadavat and in it it states the incident, which she describes more or less as it happened, then it describes in 3 other separate boxes other incidents and dates, presumably so they can see a pattern.
box 1 - the incident 26 jan 2019
box 2 - multiple abusive SMS messages by myself (we had separated but were living together) 18 aug 2018
box 3 - I grabbed her by the throat. This isn't true. I'm an 85kg rugby player and she's 55kg. We had a party with 20+ guests, she wasn't visibly upset or have any marks on her. She got in my face and I pushed her away. Irrespectively it's my word vs her word. This incident occurred back in dec 2007 and was the only physical incident in our 17 year relationship.
I've never displayed any signs of violence towards her. We've been pretty amicable, spending Xms together as a family. What are the chances of my objection being successful.
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