Hi guys:
So this saga is ongoing. Basically the ex-partner (we were together less than 2 months, never de facto) finally told me what she wants.
She wants me to pay half of everything, but not have any say in the upbringing (i.e. sole parental responsibility). Now I know that's ridiculous, and the advice of the Family Lawyers I got said the same. When I said that I wouldn't agree to that, and if I was paying I would like a say in where the money was spent (i.e. not on 5-day a week nannies and expensive private schools, or vacations 3 times a year, etc).
She mentioned to me that she was being civil, and she could easily go to a lawyer and force me to pay half of what she has already spent - the cost of delivery, the cost of medical tests, the costs of everything she has already spent.
Now bear in mind I still haven't even signed the birth certificate, and she has no desire to do a paternity test (I've asked), so legally I'm not even the father.
My question is:
Is there any sort of legal precedent where they can force me to pay for things that she has already paid for, like the delivery of the child, medical and genetic tests, etc? It seems a little crazy, but scared me, because I am sure that what she will ask for will be tens of thousands of dollars.
Not sure what to do.
So this saga is ongoing. Basically the ex-partner (we were together less than 2 months, never de facto) finally told me what she wants.
She wants me to pay half of everything, but not have any say in the upbringing (i.e. sole parental responsibility). Now I know that's ridiculous, and the advice of the Family Lawyers I got said the same. When I said that I wouldn't agree to that, and if I was paying I would like a say in where the money was spent (i.e. not on 5-day a week nannies and expensive private schools, or vacations 3 times a year, etc).
She mentioned to me that she was being civil, and she could easily go to a lawyer and force me to pay half of what she has already spent - the cost of delivery, the cost of medical tests, the costs of everything she has already spent.
Now bear in mind I still haven't even signed the birth certificate, and she has no desire to do a paternity test (I've asked), so legally I'm not even the father.
My question is:
Is there any sort of legal precedent where they can force me to pay for things that she has already paid for, like the delivery of the child, medical and genetic tests, etc? It seems a little crazy, but scared me, because I am sure that what she will ask for will be tens of thousands of dollars.
Not sure what to do.