My 20 year old daughter left a DV ( domestic violence) situation with her 6 month old son in Nov 2014. We helped her to this and her and the baby lived with us for approx 4 months, then she moved into her own place close to us where we visited her several times a week, babysat the child overnight and on one occasion for several nights. She applied to the court for a DVO ( restraining order) on her ex partner which was granted after a hearing. The Father of the child also instigated family court proceedings. However after the interim hearing where the courts ordered him supervised access, regular Skype calls, attendance to anger management and parenting classes and the involvement of a family report officer, somehow he found his way to convince our daughter to move back in with him. Now we come to the present day where our daughter kept this a secret from us for over a month and just this week has informed us she moved back in with him on Tuesday (400KM Away). We have asked her what he has done to assure the domestic violence is not going to continue and what she is doing to protect the child. She won't answer and yell at us to "Stay out of her life". We have asked her when we can see the child again, she says we can drive 400km to see him anytime, but he is not leaving her sight and it has to be done in her home. Needless to say the relationship between us and the father is strained due to the fact he abused our daughter and has barely spoken 2 words to us or anyone in our family. He controls our daughter's money, he belittles her and he threatens her. I have called DOCS and they say there is nothing they can do as the child is not currently in danger, so we have to wait until the DV starts up again. My husband and I have grown very close to our grandson and he to us. This event has broken our hearts. He lived with us and was a significant part of his life for 8 months. He is now 13 months old. We just want to be able to continue our relationship with him. At that age they forget people so quickly. I really feel we have to keep an eye on the Family Violence as well but how to do that from 400km away, I have no idea. I would like him to spend up to a week with us every 3 months. I have MS so driving those long distances is difficult for me and would like them to assist with the travelling. (My daughter does not have a licence and the father refused to do this before she left him and even during the family court proceedings). I am also on a disability support pension so finances are tight. Do you think this request is too much, too little (not that I expect grandparents rights)? Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.