My husband is divorcing ( divorce) me after I discovered that he's been having an affair for the past 3 years. He has caught me completely off guard. I then got a rather aggressive letter from my husband's family lawyer! We have 3 children. My friend who is a corporate lawyer has referred me to a good family lawyer and I have my first meeting next week. I've started getting ready with some questions. What should I be doing to make the most of this family lawyer at my first meeting and throughout the process?