I am with a man who I'm having a child with. This will be his 5th child and I'm mum number 3. His first 2 children he hasn't seen in 6 years by choice. His other 2 he hasn't seen in 8 months. When he separated from the mother, he, for a year, made no attempt to see the children. She tried to get him to the kids but he ignored them. I encouraged him to see these kids, he agreed, she allowed it. They then had a huge altercation. He got a bit to verbal, slightly physical and made a few inappropriate threats to her and for the last 8 months, she hasn't allowed him to see the kids based on this altercation. I do agree that there was no need for the threats and a small amount of pushing and she maybe felt unsafe by this, but from my take, he wouldn't do any of the things he said he would. She did not take out a domestic violence order. She does let him Skype 3 times a week, sometimes it's more, sometimes less. The calls don't last long as the kids don't really seem interested in talking to him. She lives in WA (he gave permission for this). We live in Melbourne. Her request is that he's to travel to see the kids there, she is open to when he comes. They have had 3 mediation sessions and not getting anywhere. she won't budge on it and neither will he. One child has just turned one (she was pregnant when they parted), the other just about to turn 3. She has said her solicitor said that it's most likely a judge would say that he was to travel there to see the kids at his own expense and most likely get every 2nd weekend access to them. She claims the children are too young to travel all that way, especially the youngest and claiming our living environment is not safe for children. Will a recent drug court appearance but no charge and past drug charges and appearances impact him? I myself have used drugs, only pot up until before I got pregnant. I haven't since. She is aware of my usage. Can she use me as a reason as to why he can't see his kids? Is this true? I don't know if I'm to believe her or not. It seems a bit unfair. I know he hasn't done the right thing but is this how it works in family law? Will his lack of interest in his first 2 kids get looked poorly upon? He's just not interested in these 2 as he said he was young and never wanted kids. I know this all sounds really bad but I guess if I can be honest, I can get the most honest answer about what our chances are in family court. Thank you.