Hello all, We (my husband and I) have a court ordered family report date approaching. All the children living in our household have also been requested to attend, which I thought was a little odd. Anyway, I'm wanting to know if anyone can give us any hints/tips? I understand that it is not about trying to degrade or portray the other parent in a bad or poor light. There are issues that we do need to raise in relation to behaviour that are not in the children's best interests and not promoting a relationship with the other parent. We also have some pretty derogatory Facebook posts (posted by their adult sibling relating to myself and husband). We are concerned the children are being subjected to these attitudes and overhearing things they shouldn't. They have in fact confirmed this verbally to us. It's becoming increasingly difficult. The only time the other parent will agree to is half holidays (only 2 weeks at Christmas), but with the proviso the children have the final say and advise us 30 days in advance. We have asked for half holidays, plus a weekend monthly custody of children. Happy to alternate, so they children would really only travel second monthly. Children seem very happy and excited over the phone when the weekend plans are made, however, at the last minute, the other parent will only allow a matter of hours and with one child not both, etc. It's all done under the pretense of the children not wanting to. Do we even raise these issues during the family report? We both believe it is best for the children to have a strong loving bond with both parents. That's difficult when you are only "allowed" to spend short amounts of time 3 or 4 times per year. Any help on family law would be much appreciated.