Hi My ex is an alcoholic, and when we were together I was constantly bombarded with emotional and sexual abuse because of it. It was when he physically hurt me for the first time that I made an exit plan, took our child and ran for the hills. I never reported any of the incidents due to intimidation and threats. During the last 4 years, he has had access every second weekend and spends those weekends with our child at his parents' house. This was his choice, but only due to the fact that he lives in a tiny bedroom at a mate's house with no room for our child. However, now he is having to move and he's talking about getting his own place, which will mean that there won't be that buffer zone and I fear for our child's safety. He has drugs, alcohol and a decent collection of knives (I believe there is a switchblade somewhere in that collection) which he refused to lock up/get rid of while we were living together, and I'm pretty sure he still has them. Last I heard, he was shopping for a new one. So, I have no solid proof of any of this, and it's just my word against his. All I have are psychologist and psychiatrist reports (he messed me up big time). There are no court or parenting orders in place. How can I ensure the safety of my child under family law? Can I just insist that he comes to my place for visitation? I'm 99% sure he wouldn't take me to family court. Any help would be appreciated.