Hi. I have been divorced for over 10 years now. We have had a set of family court orders in place since 2006 and generally co-exist ok - shared responsibilities - kids week about.
My boys have played soccer for 6 years now under 9s-14's. I have coached most of that time. This year i decided to take a break. In all that time the boys mum has never paid a thing towards soccer fees nor attended probably half the matches cos she plays soccer herself - her whole life is all about her - a total control freak - she has been emotionally and verbally abusive to me in all that time - i just get on with it... my boys are 15 and 13 this year and seeing their mum for all she is much as i am sure they love her. We changed teams this year and she refuses to support the choice of teams so my poor kids have at presently to miss out every second week and they love their soccer - she has no earthly reason to not take them other than selfishness and as usual to try hurt me - when all she is doing as usual is hurt the boys. What can I do?
My boys have made this decision knowing full well she is doing her best to sabotage it - she has done this for years - for the first time ever my oldest said to me "dad - i don't want to be at mums anymore - i cant live like this!". This moment has been coming for years - she still treats them like they are 5 years old - they both would rather be with me but have been too afraid of her. Staying with me is not the issue - that will take care of itself in due course - iIam now concerned for my sons mental welfare - BUT... short term do I have any legal family law avenues to pursue? The orders are very generic and state things like "each parent will support their children in activities etc".
Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated
Thanks very much.
My boys have played soccer for 6 years now under 9s-14's. I have coached most of that time. This year i decided to take a break. In all that time the boys mum has never paid a thing towards soccer fees nor attended probably half the matches cos she plays soccer herself - her whole life is all about her - a total control freak - she has been emotionally and verbally abusive to me in all that time - i just get on with it... my boys are 15 and 13 this year and seeing their mum for all she is much as i am sure they love her. We changed teams this year and she refuses to support the choice of teams so my poor kids have at presently to miss out every second week and they love their soccer - she has no earthly reason to not take them other than selfishness and as usual to try hurt me - when all she is doing as usual is hurt the boys. What can I do?
My boys have made this decision knowing full well she is doing her best to sabotage it - she has done this for years - for the first time ever my oldest said to me "dad - i don't want to be at mums anymore - i cant live like this!". This moment has been coming for years - she still treats them like they are 5 years old - they both would rather be with me but have been too afraid of her. Staying with me is not the issue - that will take care of itself in due course - iIam now concerned for my sons mental welfare - BUT... short term do I have any legal family law avenues to pursue? The orders are very generic and state things like "each parent will support their children in activities etc".
Any advice you can give would be greatly appreciated
Thanks very much.