Hi,
My ex and I met abroad. I was a UNI student and he a property consultant. After insisting a lot and even buying me tickets to come to Australia for Holidays, I took a break from UNI and came here to spend time with him. Things escalated quickly and 5 months down the track he asked me to marry him, I said I couldn’t because I had to finish UNI, so he promised me to support me to have an education here if I left it all behind to marry him. It was a fairytale tale at the beginning.
But a couple of years down the track it became a nightmare, and I had to leave him for Domestic Violence reasons.
He never supported me to continue my education over here, as there was always something else more important, basically treated me as a maid, I had to cook and clean for him every day while also working full time and paying some of our bills. He then started his own business while we were together. I helped him with secretarial work, and by then, he was making over 200 k a year.
We never bought a house together, and I don’t know much at all about his financial situation, all I know is that he was earning a lot of money.
Now we just got divorced and I feel like not only I was treated very poorly but I also missed out the chance of a brighter future when I left everything behind for him. So I tried to reach an agreement with him regarding our finances as I’m in a disadvantaged situation post our marriage. I asked him to at least pay for my uni fees so that I can at least get back to where I was when I met him.
Summarising, I have been trying to engage with him in meditation, but he refuses. The mediator will issue me a refusal certificate.
So my question is, am I entitled to some compensation? And what can I do from here! ( my financial situation isn’t great and he is relying on that, as I won’t be able to afford family court) what can I do? As he refuses mediation, would the court order him to pay the costs?
I’m sorry for the very long story!
Thank you!
My ex and I met abroad. I was a UNI student and he a property consultant. After insisting a lot and even buying me tickets to come to Australia for Holidays, I took a break from UNI and came here to spend time with him. Things escalated quickly and 5 months down the track he asked me to marry him, I said I couldn’t because I had to finish UNI, so he promised me to support me to have an education here if I left it all behind to marry him. It was a fairytale tale at the beginning.
But a couple of years down the track it became a nightmare, and I had to leave him for Domestic Violence reasons.
He never supported me to continue my education over here, as there was always something else more important, basically treated me as a maid, I had to cook and clean for him every day while also working full time and paying some of our bills. He then started his own business while we were together. I helped him with secretarial work, and by then, he was making over 200 k a year.
We never bought a house together, and I don’t know much at all about his financial situation, all I know is that he was earning a lot of money.
Now we just got divorced and I feel like not only I was treated very poorly but I also missed out the chance of a brighter future when I left everything behind for him. So I tried to reach an agreement with him regarding our finances as I’m in a disadvantaged situation post our marriage. I asked him to at least pay for my uni fees so that I can at least get back to where I was when I met him.
Summarising, I have been trying to engage with him in meditation, but he refuses. The mediator will issue me a refusal certificate.
So my question is, am I entitled to some compensation? And what can I do from here! ( my financial situation isn’t great and he is relying on that, as I won’t be able to afford family court) what can I do? As he refuses mediation, would the court order him to pay the costs?
I’m sorry for the very long story!
Thank you!