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QLD Domestic Violence - Where can Person with Disability Get Help?

Discussion in 'Family Law Forum' started by Hope this helps, 9 April 2016.

  1. Hope this helps

    Hope this helps Well-Known Member

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    QLD court was for child custody ( as referred to in my time) and property settlement hearing. It was supposed to last 1-2 days at most. A week before trial, my eldest child (our child, we have 4) had a breakdown and told the doctor by herself at the clinic that she was sexually abused by her father and was in such a state, she was admitted to a child's mental health unit. Unbeknownst to me, she was protecting her little sister and 2 younger brothers from abuse and her youngest sister and herself from sexual abuse.

    My ex and I separated when youngest was 6 mths old. I knew the law and have always agreed that children need both parents equally, so the father was free to have the children and they were free to see their father whenever they wished to have contact. Domestic Violence re me escalated beyond comprehension after I separated (and it was incomprehensible prior). My limited knowledge of Domestic Violence was only if someone hit their partner with a frying pan. However, when I married rape, physical abuse of children and wives were not seen as illegal and there was no such law pertaining to rape within marriage by law. The father/husband had ownership of family. They could take away children from the mother, leave her without financial help whether married or not as they held the finances, and take the children away with him.

    The mothers / women had not much of any legal help or rights apart from killing her or children, no gov help.

    Divorce was not an option and women were not to say anything against husband. In fact, wives, even if they knew what the husband did unlawfully, were not and could not be used as a witness. No laws against rape, sex abuse in a marriage. A wife was to 'obey' husband.

    Anyway, rang the police but the ex's brother was in the police force and the QLD Commissioner at the time, spent holidays at his father's vineyard in Vic. The police were not helpful, including his brother or C.I.B.

    Try and cut it short, the judge was also in old boys club along with my solicitor, ex and his brother. The father and the judge I had in court said 'well she (me) states here he can have everything so that's what she wants, that's what she gets.' I happily gave houses and everything to the ex but the judge, because my eldest daughter was admitted to mental health unit a week before court, disregarded this fact even though my barrister stood up and asked this matter be adjourned till investigations into my daughter's claim could be done. But the judge ignored this including the witness doctor, whom my child disclosed this information to. My own doctor also personally came into court stating I was unfit to appear in court on each of the first 3 days of court. The judge stated 'if I hear another person tell me the mother is unfit to carry on, I myself will place her in a mental facility and have her assessed and the child taken away from her! You have 15 mins recess to tell me if she can continue or not!'

    I wrote one affidavit, meanwhile, ex had already filed an affidavit and my solicitor didn't show me it nor the second affidavit the ex wrote against my first affidavit. However my solicitor stated that the judge would not allow this. Well, the Judge did!

    He went by my first affidavit and the ex's second affidavit. The ex wrote praises in his first affidavit stating I was a doting wife, mother and all other praises. His second was in defence with evidence and expert witnesses of my first and only affidavit. Evidence, expert witness, people he had sexually abused when they were children stood up before the court, including other witnesses regarding my now 5-year-old daughter.

    He had illegally kidnapped my two sons. The judge ordered federal police to obtain them, however, my barrister (another old boys club member) talked me out of it all afternoon till I agreed, saying it was for the best interest of the children not for the federal police to pick up my sons. I never saw them again (it has been 10 years).

    The Judge gave our 5-year-old to the father even though the ex didn't want her due to the shift work, but the judge claimed he didn't want my baby girl to be in the same house as my eldest daughter who was in a mental health unit and told the father that my boys went to a good school, the same one he had attended (private school) as he had been there himself honorary special guest, and my sons could look after their 5-year-old sister who does not even remember living with the ex nor went to school at the time.

    My sons were 13 and 15 years old. My 5-year-old was traumatised, frightened, had nightmares, was bruised and sexually abused, not just by the father, but my sons copying their father. Even the CLR was in the old boys club and several people complained and rang the CLR, DOCS but the ex's brother, a senior sergeant spoke to DOCS and the police, and they did nothing. DOCS did not even check the information sent to me by my child and the other persons' complaints when she came to me with severe bruising on her feet, back, bottom, and locked outside in the cold, with no food, making her do things to him, which she did to any male she saw (sexual acts).

    My problem is, all statements, affidavits, photos, and medical records disappeared from the police station and the solicitors did not refer to them nor show them. I have in my possession evidence. I won an appeal in the high courts due to the wrongfulness of the judge and dismissing expert witnesses, stating wrongful facts, drunkness during trial and much worse.

    My solicitor and barrister failed to tell me I had 28 days to obtain one transcript that costs $18,000 for one and I required 9 copies for the High court. Hence, as I didn't have enough time to raise $ 18,000 for one, let alone for 9 transcripts and lost the chance to appeal due to time and money. Still the ex continued, to this day, break court orders.

    The ex became worse and would not allow my boys to see me or contact me nor their oldest sister and throughout this process, domestic violence heightened. A 2 year permanent Domestic Violence was placed on him (old school terminology) but that didn't stop him. He breached these but the photos the police took of criminal physical damages to me disappeared and he got away as there was no evidence that police took or shown in court. He was placed several times on a temp domestic violence on me and all the while, I was recovering from radical spinal operation that made me 2.5 cm
    Taller, with advance cancer, metastatic but he was charged with being vindictive and malicious and made to pay all court costs plus my costs of Legal fee for continuing to try and place temp DV's on me on false grounds.

    However, he continued to break orders and as he is classed as a psychopath, sociopath ( yes there is a difference) kleptomaniac, maras distil, and highly intelligent to point of mastermind and trained in America brainwashing techniques, black belt in karate, Taekwondo and judo, he has made it that I haven't seen my youngest daughter now, going over 3 yrs.

    He still torments me, stalks me, does things I do not know about until I come across and ask why something has been stopped only to find out he is behind it all, and my eldest daughter who just the other day, I placed on suicide watch and now is in the mental health hospital after she saw her father who had convinced her to meet him.

    So where does a person with multiple disabilities including but not limited to, unable to sign, use hands, wheelchair bound, physically weak, speech can go on, etc., to get help with contravention of orders plus give evidence to DOCS, police, or whomever, regarding paperwork of evidence and proof?

    Emotionally I cannot handle reading the material of my children nor can I tell what he has done to me but I need help. Where does a disability person get support and help?

    Legal aid has stated that if I can't at least sign or have trouble with speech and I can't fill in forms, etc., they are not equipped here and funding wouldn't allow it. So is there any organisation or paralegals or somewhere or someone who can sort it out and I will pay for copies to give them for the DOCS, the police or who and wherever they are supposed to legally go to, plus help me get written down on paper what he has done to me and support me in court?

    Everyone is worried about my health. I am not. The only thing that haunts me is that I may never see my youngest daughter, let alone my sons before I pass away and I will keep fighting till my last breath as my doctors keep saying to me, shaking their heads. But hardest is finding a person, organisation, someone who can handle a severe series of grotesque incidents and not be affected, and I only have to mention just one thing they (no one, not even professional therapist) can handle.

    Plus I'm under the highest hospital security given.

    Any advice? Can't find a solicitor smart enough for him. I know his patterns and solicitors look like and are fools compared to him. He found a barrister clever enough to, at least, sway a judge but need a solicitor.

    Anyone know of an organisation to assist and to sort out paperwork evidence? Something? Anything?

    Please help.
     
  2. Clancy

    Clancy Well-Known Member

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    To help you out, I would recommend you don't mention so many people are in the 'old boys club' because it harms your credibility.

    People may believe one or two are in the old boys club, but not that many, and the chances both your solicitor and barrister just happened to be in the old boys club as well?

    Anyway, but the real point is you don't have full confidence in them, that's the important issue. You do need a solicitor you feel you can trust, so shop around and see what you find. it's almost like going on dates.... whomever you feel a good vibe and connection with.
     
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    I didn't mention the name of the all male club, lol and didn't know it existed till I came to Queensland. In fact, my sons are also in the club just as my ex and his brothers and father. It is a barrister who is in the club that told me about it in the first place and its code, ethics, strong bond and sworn above all wives, mothers, girlfriends, daughters and sisters to place their fellow brother and help each other over all else! At least, I know my sons will be well cared for in all matters.

    However, this is a worldwide club. It does not discredit me at all because it is very promintent here and well known. All I am after is a person or organisation who can go through my evidence and paperwork, which if a person had legal knowledge, would easily take under 2 hours to do and tell me to place or give copies to DOCS or the police so that the ex does not get away with sexual abuse, physical negligence, etc., which is still occurring.

    I myself instantly crumble and become an emotional mess for days just reading a paragraph or seeing a photo of my children. Need someone who is not involved and objective just as I am regarding other people.

    But most people are like that. Ok to deal and assist others but when it comes to your own children - nope! Hence, why surgeons are not allowed to operate on their own immediate family.
     
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    My main question is where a person with disabilities can obtain legal advice and assistance. I'm
    determined to seek justice. Not just for my children but other persons who came out of the wood works and were sexually assaulted, taken advantage of when young, including international students 16 years and under.
     
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    Yep, drop the 'club' talk and focus on what you need to do moving forward. People are free to be in whatever club they like and not be discriminated against. It's enough for you to simply say you did not fully trust them and leave it at that :)

    It just sounds to me like your looking for a legal 'tiger' who will really fight for you, and I don't think you will find that If you want government assistance legal advice? I could be wrong.
     
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    Clancy this is not a club where men go to smoke and drink whisky if this is what you are thinking. Lol. An example would be if you went to a private religious boys school. It's not just Australian wide but world wide and my two sons use to chant together with their fist in the air and I thought nothing of it as they told me it was a school declaration of commitment, promise for life to all fellow brothers previously gone and those to come afterwards will always be there when called upon.

    I just smiled and thought it was a way for the school to make all students feel a part of the school and strengthen teamwork and pride. As I said, it was a barrister who went to the same college that educated me and also stated I wouldn't stand a chance and who also spent 6 hrs at his office till 10.30 pm convincing me not to go through with the judges order of sending Federal police to the school to pick them up.

    'Think of how the boys would feel and Federal police are not like police, they have a job to do and go in, locate the person, put handcuffs on them and will treat them roughly!' So I did think in the best interest of the boys. Silly me!

    My boys, due to their father, were unable to have contact with me or their older sister who protected them from their father ever since. I understand why. They were only boys and I, as an adult, still have to have security. People who have never experienced being in a psychopath's hands and other disorders but highly intelligent and a multimillionaire have no clue what they are capable of until too late.

    I have a Barrister who is highly intelligent and met my ex, but not a solicitor. I have taught detectives many ways he has stolen, committed fraud, etc. He has a very sophisticated way of doing everything and very detailed, never gives up as he promised, and continues to do exactly the same things and nothing is off limits to him. But a true psychopath as detectives know is very rare and even rarer to see or watch in action.

    They use to come and watch him in court. He represented himself. Even I am in awe as others are. Sounds weird but to see a mastermind at work, just as it is a genius, is mind blowing, but at the same time frightening.
     
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    Have you ever watched those reality police shows? Notice how different it is to fictional police shows? In the reality police shows the criminals getting caught are usually as dumb as bricks. In the fictional police shows, the criminals getting caught are usually very smart.

    In reality, you rarely see smart criminals getting caught. That's why it's reality, crime does pay, Karma is dead, justice is not guaranteed, you don't ride off into the sunset with prince charming and live happily ever after because that's real life.

    You just have to breathe, relax, accept the situation you are in and don't be panicked into stepping on any more landmines. Let him be as cunning as he likes, let the baby have his dummy, good luck to him. Don't buy into it, don't engage him in the battles he has staged, chose your battles wisely. And do not say or do anything more without legal advice. Find a lawyer with whom you click.

    Hope this helps
     
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    Oh one other important thing... The club thing, it's a distraction that I don't see how it will help you moving forward? In a legal sense, I don't think anyone is going to want to touch discriminating against a club or any such group unless it gets classed as a 'cult' officially by the government.
     
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    Thank you, Clancy. I didn't mean my explanation to be about old boys clubs. It is not the issue. I was just explaining to you. No all I had to do is ask what religion and school they went to. Then find out if they knew more than me regarding court procedures etc.

    But now all I am truly after is help or information, whereby I can go and seek help with a 'contravention of family court orders' and to pay a person who can write, sort out by hand and say 'right! That is to be sent to DOCS. Hand that to the police!" which I would and let these Gov. Bodies investigate or however they wish to deal with it all.

    It is due to multiple physical disabilities that I cannot go through documents without scrunching them up or accidentally roping them nor get to legal aid or legal advice which I would be happy to pay including sorting out evidence and solicitor to do so. As none of these have been seen or dealt with legally or brought to the courts' attention and that is because of my disabilities and being palliative, wheelchair bound and cancer is dibilitating. For the sake of my children, I have never been brought to courts attention and affidavits, statements , photos of horrific bruising due to punishment, neglect, having expert witnesses from concerned paediatric consultants and doctors, etc. regarding my child and for the past 11 yrs, as this sicko hasn't stopped and it still continues including with my eldest daughter, and myself too.

    I've gotten to the stage regarding the ex ' whatever happens to me, so be it' , but not regarding my daughters and other children he continues to affect. And he can work out a person within 2-3sec.
    I want justice for them.

    I am not worried about justice regarding myself. This I do not have any strength for. But will pass away happy knowing my daughters will be safe and other children from this man.

    If I didn't have disability nor had to deal with cancer-related problems, I would be the Mother Tiger you speak off! Believe me, I have gone to court daily and different ones whilst my broken spine was mending, getting over a double mastomy, doing chemo and radiation which, that in itself knocks the stuffing out of you, because the ex taking me to court on false allegations in the family court, then to a magistrate court as he placed another AVO only for it to be dismissed or thrown out of court but he still placed more on whilst I was busy in hospital and looking after my daughters, etc.

    But now, I don't have the same inner strength. Yes I won't rest till unseen affidavits, statements, documents, photos etc are, at least, in the hands that someone can do something about. Hopefully justice. If not, at least I died trying, as the doctors say, and this evidence is severe, grotesque.

    The difficult part is finding a person who can handle it!
     
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    Oh my, that sure is a truckload of strife.

    I guess you will be aware of the emotional toll will not help your health? So here is a little something positive to help.

    You are a beautiful person. I am sure I have no idea the vast universe inside your heart, all the shining stars, and planets, and wonders to behold, and look, a shooting star of hope! Since the day you were born, you have been dreaming, creating, building, feeling an entire universe within that no one else knows exists, totally unique and special. In all of time, from the beginning of time until the end of time there is no one like you :)

    Now finding that good lawyer... so what area of Queensland are you in?
     

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