Hi,
My husband lives overseas and when he decided to end the marriage, he sent me and the kids back to Australia. As he lives in a country where Australia has no reach, child support will not deal with the case of maintenance. So he pays whatever he feels like each month and there is nothing I can do. I have learned to accept this, but now he wants to Skype the children also on his terms and based on his work schedule.
I have fulltime care and custody of children and have to work fulltime to provide financially for them. My job is 9-5, however, with 100% day to day care of the kids, I find it hard to manage and my plate is full. I have told him that I am happy to facilitate Skype time with him and his children but it needs to be on a set day and a set time. For example, Every Thursday at 7pm.
As his job is not 9-5 and he has a roster which changes constantly he now wants me to follow the Skype time based on his roster. This means that each month the Skype time will change. For example, in one month it might be Monday week 1 and then Wednesday week 2 and then Friday week 3, etc.
Although he can give me a month notice I find this unreasonable to ask me to follow his schedule and not take into account the stability of having a set time frame so that it makes life easier for me to plan.
Will the family court see this as being unreasonable on my part? I have tried to talk to him but he refuses to budge, stating that this is his roster and that he cannot guarantee to be available for Skype on a Thursday each week and he will see me in court as I am being unreasonable.
As he lives overseas there is no way I can ask him to go to mediation, is this correct?
I really cannot afford to go to court but I am finding that I seem to be at a disadvantage as I have a 9-5 job.
My husband lives overseas and when he decided to end the marriage, he sent me and the kids back to Australia. As he lives in a country where Australia has no reach, child support will not deal with the case of maintenance. So he pays whatever he feels like each month and there is nothing I can do. I have learned to accept this, but now he wants to Skype the children also on his terms and based on his work schedule.
I have fulltime care and custody of children and have to work fulltime to provide financially for them. My job is 9-5, however, with 100% day to day care of the kids, I find it hard to manage and my plate is full. I have told him that I am happy to facilitate Skype time with him and his children but it needs to be on a set day and a set time. For example, Every Thursday at 7pm.
As his job is not 9-5 and he has a roster which changes constantly he now wants me to follow the Skype time based on his roster. This means that each month the Skype time will change. For example, in one month it might be Monday week 1 and then Wednesday week 2 and then Friday week 3, etc.
Although he can give me a month notice I find this unreasonable to ask me to follow his schedule and not take into account the stability of having a set time frame so that it makes life easier for me to plan.
Will the family court see this as being unreasonable on my part? I have tried to talk to him but he refuses to budge, stating that this is his roster and that he cannot guarantee to be available for Skype on a Thursday each week and he will see me in court as I am being unreasonable.
As he lives overseas there is no way I can ask him to go to mediation, is this correct?
I really cannot afford to go to court but I am finding that I seem to be at a disadvantage as I have a 9-5 job.