Hi, I'm new to this forum. Divorcing after a 6-year marriage. One 4-year-old child. I want to self-represent in family court for custody of children and property settlement. My ex wants to settle property but is in denial over custody and refused to comply with the custody mediation. She is showing signs of being tricky over property settlement as well. Her lawyer sent me an out of court settlement offer and many things in my favor went missing, including a hundred thousand post marriage contribution from me, and her property investments in the Philippines (She is Filipino). I am not that bothered about getting a fantastic property settlement but I do not want her to succeed in hiding all those things. So long as everything is laid out before a judge, then I am happy with whatever happens. For going to family court, what I want to know is, should I do custody first or should I do custody and property both at the same time?