Quick background: We have Consent Orders, which are a little dated but the main points are still relevant (i.e. shared parental responsibility and I have her 6 nights a fortnight). Our daughter is 12 years old and we have been separated 11 years. I have since married and have two other children. My ex is single and has no other children. There is so much I want to say, but I suppose I am here because I don't know what to do next. I've been told to seek legal advice because we're perpetually in a state of reaction (i.e. waiting for my ex's next "threat" or legal letter). She huffs and puffs, but lacks the commitment to go too far most times. We've recently done workshops, although she refused to share any ideas she picked up from that on how to improve our communication or shared responsibility. I even offered some real basic tips I picked up from it, hoping for some response but nothing. We've also done mediation, but we were referred to a therapist because nothing could be agreed upon (she was very hung up on events that occurred 5 plus years ago and she wouldn't discuss any current matters). The therapist (which we saw separately) has now recommended that I seek legal advice and that she doesn't believe negotiations can be successful with my ex (as my ex couldn't detail to them what she wanted to achieve). The therapist also recommended I raise concerns that my daughter was taken to a counsellor without my consent and knowledge by her mother (the therapist said I should be suspicious of "why" I wasn't informed, i.e. what was the "agenda"). Through this whole process, the impression I have received from the mediators and therapist is that my ex is doing this whole thing with malicious intent - that is to hurt me, stress me out, try to make her bend to her will, and to drive a wedge between my daughter and I (make her look good). I really don't know where to next. I don't want to "fight" for more custody of children, it is very exhausting. My daughter would probably get dragged into it (and I know my ex would lay the guilt trip on her), but the more my eyes are opened to my ex (I've given her the benefit of doubt for over 10 years when friends and families have been saying the worse), the more I wonder, do I need to "fight" for my daughter? Put it this way, I would not let a person with my ex's characteristics have anything to do with my daughter if she wasn't her mother. But from my experience, a difference in values / morals is not enough to persuade a family court decision. What legal help (if any) do I look for?