Hi,
I am writing about child support. I 100% agree that father's need to support their children, however I need some help on the following. My partner has 3 children (aged 17,12 and 10). Court orders state that the children are with their father 4 nights a fortnight (about 5 months ago the 12 year old asked to spend another night a week with her father and was coming 6 nights a fortnight.
Because of this decision, the mother kicked the daughter out of home for a week. The daughter stayed with us during this time and encouraged her to fix things with her mother as we believe in children needing both parents). About a year ago the 16-year-old, now 17, refused to come because he did not like that his dad pulled him up on his bad behaviour.
About 8 months ago, the 10-year-old refused to come because the father told him he needed to treat people with respect (it takes minor things to lose the children because the mother encourages no communication). Recently the 12-year-old has refused to come because the father would not pay for something she wanted (on top of child support he also pays for dancing, sport and recently took her on a holiday. Her mother does not let the child do these things if the father doesn't pay, so he does).
The mother of these children hates the fact her ex husband is in a new relationship (despite being separated for 7 years and divorced for 5) and encourages the children to refuse to go to the fathers.
My partner is now expected to pay $850 a fortnight for children who refuse to see him. The mother has encouraged this and obviously enjoys being paid huge money. None of the children do extra curricular activities while with their mother because she refuses this. My partner is a school principal and is a role model to so many children, yet due to the mothers actions and jealousy, his own children refuse to see him.
Where can we go with this? He's already gone to court and we can't afford to go back (court orders say children are with their dad 4 nights a fortnight). Should he have to pay $850 a fortnight to a mother who encourages the children not to come and says things like 'you're breaking my heart talking to your dad '. Like I said, I agree with paying some support, but $850 a fortnight is outrageous.
Thanks for your help
I am writing about child support. I 100% agree that father's need to support their children, however I need some help on the following. My partner has 3 children (aged 17,12 and 10). Court orders state that the children are with their father 4 nights a fortnight (about 5 months ago the 12 year old asked to spend another night a week with her father and was coming 6 nights a fortnight.
Because of this decision, the mother kicked the daughter out of home for a week. The daughter stayed with us during this time and encouraged her to fix things with her mother as we believe in children needing both parents). About a year ago the 16-year-old, now 17, refused to come because he did not like that his dad pulled him up on his bad behaviour.
About 8 months ago, the 10-year-old refused to come because the father told him he needed to treat people with respect (it takes minor things to lose the children because the mother encourages no communication). Recently the 12-year-old has refused to come because the father would not pay for something she wanted (on top of child support he also pays for dancing, sport and recently took her on a holiday. Her mother does not let the child do these things if the father doesn't pay, so he does).
The mother of these children hates the fact her ex husband is in a new relationship (despite being separated for 7 years and divorced for 5) and encourages the children to refuse to go to the fathers.
My partner is now expected to pay $850 a fortnight for children who refuse to see him. The mother has encouraged this and obviously enjoys being paid huge money. None of the children do extra curricular activities while with their mother because she refuses this. My partner is a school principal and is a role model to so many children, yet due to the mothers actions and jealousy, his own children refuse to see him.
Where can we go with this? He's already gone to court and we can't afford to go back (court orders say children are with their dad 4 nights a fortnight). Should he have to pay $850 a fortnight to a mother who encourages the children not to come and says things like 'you're breaking my heart talking to your dad '. Like I said, I agree with paying some support, but $850 a fortnight is outrageous.
Thanks for your help
