I have read thread after thread on this forum and am seriously impressed with the quality of answers and the time and effort people responding to questions have put into their answers. I am hoping I'll be lucky enough to get the same quality advice and opinions!
Already involved in family court proceeding where mother has made allegations regarding father's capacity to parent due to mental health issues (diagnosed) and anger management issues. Mother agrees to the 3 children spending holiday time interstate with father.
During the holidays mother is notified during a call by the children that the children and the adults have fallen ill with a bug. We'll call this day 1. All children have symptoms of cold and flu. One child (7) also has fevers diarrhoea and seems more unwell than the others. The following timeline was learned after the events of day 6.
Day 2 and 3 two of the children improve and recover and one seems much sicker than the rest but appears better on day 4. On day 5 the same child deteriorates and wants to sleep with high fevers, coughing and wheezing. The child is left in bed all day (other adult present babysitting) while the other children go out to pre-planned activities with the father.
On the night of day 5 and early hours of day 6 the child is attended to in the night by the father's partner after coughing causing vomiting. The child is given ventolin and sent back to bed.
On the morning of day 6 the mother is advised by phone that the child was driven to a local hospital by the father after the father awoke to find the child coughing, choking , vomiting and blue in the face and the father's partner attempting to administer ventolin. The mother is told the child has respiratory failure and a collapsed lung. The child is critically ill and deteriorating. Within an hour of arriving at the first local hospital emergency department the child was placed in an induced coma and then transferred to a large city hospital where the child then spent a week in ICU with serious pneumonia. The child recovers and is discharged back into the mother's care.
The father says he did all things necessary and possible to take care of the child. This did not include getting any medical assessment of the child prior to the child being rushed to hospital on what was reported to be day 6 of the illness although the other children said they became unwell several days prior.
How do you feel about sending these children back interstate for further holidays? I feel heartsick but am keen to hear others opinions.
Already involved in family court proceeding where mother has made allegations regarding father's capacity to parent due to mental health issues (diagnosed) and anger management issues. Mother agrees to the 3 children spending holiday time interstate with father.
During the holidays mother is notified during a call by the children that the children and the adults have fallen ill with a bug. We'll call this day 1. All children have symptoms of cold and flu. One child (7) also has fevers diarrhoea and seems more unwell than the others. The following timeline was learned after the events of day 6.
Day 2 and 3 two of the children improve and recover and one seems much sicker than the rest but appears better on day 4. On day 5 the same child deteriorates and wants to sleep with high fevers, coughing and wheezing. The child is left in bed all day (other adult present babysitting) while the other children go out to pre-planned activities with the father.
On the night of day 5 and early hours of day 6 the child is attended to in the night by the father's partner after coughing causing vomiting. The child is given ventolin and sent back to bed.
On the morning of day 6 the mother is advised by phone that the child was driven to a local hospital by the father after the father awoke to find the child coughing, choking , vomiting and blue in the face and the father's partner attempting to administer ventolin. The mother is told the child has respiratory failure and a collapsed lung. The child is critically ill and deteriorating. Within an hour of arriving at the first local hospital emergency department the child was placed in an induced coma and then transferred to a large city hospital where the child then spent a week in ICU with serious pneumonia. The child recovers and is discharged back into the mother's care.
The father says he did all things necessary and possible to take care of the child. This did not include getting any medical assessment of the child prior to the child being rushed to hospital on what was reported to be day 6 of the illness although the other children said they became unwell several days prior.
How do you feel about sending these children back interstate for further holidays? I feel heartsick but am keen to hear others opinions.
