QLD How Would Family Court Play Out?

I'm sure there's a better way to say what you said.

Your assumptions are wrong with why I'm wanting the father contact by lawyer or mediator! This is not about a good man who is a genuinely good father. And I am not someone who thinks all men are horrible either! This is like many others, not a situation that is like every other. This is a man who has chosen to use harasment and intimidation to get his way! You think it's normal for a family to be uprooted and move because the children's father simply drops by for some family time?! If so you are wrong in that assumption.

I don't really feel like disclosing the personal nature of the mother and father's relationship but to insinuate and make accusations are just wrong!

I asked for civil comments because there's more to the story. I do want the father and children to have a relationship. But if you got off your high horse and looked past your own issues! You may be open to seeing that not everything is so black and white as you think it is.

Please grow up and move along!

BTW the father would never just communicate and leave communication to be about the kids solely!

If so, I would of already done so. And to note I have tried to talk to the father about seeing the kids previously and he refused!

Please read previous comments.

The father had previous opportunities to see the children and put something in place. I've tried so many times. I'm left with nothing else to do. The father can contact a lawyer that's an option. Not a popular one by your response but one non the least.

I don't have issues with the other replies just yours actually.

Why are you daring me? When I already had previously? I'm happy to do it again. There's literally no issues. As I've stated before the father is the one refusing to contact anyone in regards to moving forward with the children?

And now is making threats to go to court. But hasn't tried another avenue yet. And the advice is fine but I explained I appreciated Sophie's opinion on the last part and was open to it. It was just yes I didn't like being accused of being childish. Because that's not why I hadn't contacted the father.

I'm open to all opinions but yes I feel reluctant and I have my reasons which are why I said the mother has things to think about!

Honestly I don't want to go to family court. I feel for you, I really do!

I've heard horror stories about the ones who find themselves at family court.

I'm not exaggerating when I say I want to workout something with my children's father but he will never agree to anything if I were the one contacting him directly. I realise it wouldn't be a straight forward journey even if he was willing to be civil with me and we try to find a solution with the kids.

I feel like I'm the one who is trying to encourage the relationship. Because I was before. And yes I realise you only read a one sided version of events. But I came here for advice and it's making me feel really disheartened at the thought of court. If we were to end up there. Bloody terrifying to be honest.

I think I've been put into the basket that those mothers who are vindictive are placed in. And it's really not the case. I'm really genuinely scared for my safety and only recently started getting things back on track after having to relocate.

The father pops up every now and again requesting to see the kids but never follows through with it. I'm not even making it hard for him. Though you may think I am being unreasonable given I'm asking to go through mediation or a lawyer. However it's just something that it a very necessary process in my situation. And so wanted to know what I was looking at if I were to go to court I guess.

I have legitimate reasons I can't just contact him and see him at the shops. I can't risk him following us home cause then I'll have to uproot the kids again. They are only 3 & 4 and it's not easy. History has shown what will happen. I've done exactly what is suggested before talk and sort it out with Dad and that didn't go very well for me or the kids. So this time I have to not do it that way. Dad wants to see kids but he isn't the only person that will be affected if and when he starts behaving in an negative way.

Anyway clearly I need to rethink my approach and try to find a solution to this whole situation. Something I'm open to and something will workout for both parents. At least for the kids. They need that relationship.

The reason I was waiting for the father to initiate it is because I did contact Relationships Australia a couple of years ago and had given the contact information for the father but he didn't make contact with them himself. Father felt we don't need it.

So I facilitated the relationship between father and the children but when putting a more concrete and consistent plan in place. The father wouldn't agree to anything. As I said I wasn't the only one who approached him about a agreement for him to see the kids regularly.

So I'll give it another shot and see what I can organise from my end but I can't guarantee the father will follow through with it. But I guess it means I tried it, right? And that hopefully will prove I'm wanting the father and children to have an relationship.

I'm not against him but he needs to meet me half way.