QLD Ex Threatened DVO Against Me - Impact on Family Court?
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Next time this happens in your life hit the big red disconnect button and then the block number button. Who cares what he is doing to her, it is not your problem. And I am not insinuating anything. Just replying to someone who is or was talking to his exes new g/f
I don't care, and I was hoping that by saying what I said would make him leave me alone. Thanks for that
So you tell your ex's new partner that he is a liar and a cheat and that is going to stop him from bothering you? How does that work? You are in control of your own destiny
You've made your point numerous times, move on and give her some more constructive opinions to her other issues.
Having an ex try to continue to manipulate your emotions is not fun at all, when all you really want is for them to leave you alone and give you some space so you can finally start to get them out of your head and move forward.
I agree with the others that you should do the mediation...as you are eligible to legal aid, perhaps you could enquire with them about attending the legally assisted version...means you would have a lawyer present. I also agree you need to take some of the control back...
I know you are emotionally exhausted right now so your motivation is waning but walking away in the hopes he will just leave you alone is not a fool proof solution. You have kids together that keep you connected and there is no guarantee that the treats of court or dv (or even him manipulating you by continuing to say he loves you. When he has re-partnered etc.) will stop or things will get easier.
From what you say here...he may need a good reality check...if mediation fails again, Court may well be the place to assist him with that. In other words, he won’t be reasonable and continues to threaten you with court. You take his sorry ass to court instead...no more threats of court (and you have taken control)...will also mitigate some of the dv threats as it won’t look too good for him if he continues along those lines when the behaviour can be raised before the judge. Apply in relation to children and property...
For now...stick to communications only in relation to the children, unless its an emergency, if you need to tell him something about the kids text it. If you answer a call from him and he strays from discussing the kids...politely tell him you need to go and hang up. Do your 14 year olds have mobiles?...if so, they can contact him directly?
Is the 2 year old spending time with dad?...are you by any chance supervising these visits? If info revolves around the kids there should be no reason, at this time, to correspond with his new partner...how do you know that her contact with you to discuss your ex is not a set up and being recorded?...entrapment springs to mind.
As I said, I agree your best option for now is to do the mediation and go from there. I wish you well.
I agree with the others that you should do the mediation...as you are eligible to legal aid, perhaps you could enquire with them about attending the legally assisted version...means you would have a lawyer present. I also agree you need to take some of the control back...
I know you are emotionally exhausted right now so your motivation is waning but walking away in the hopes he will just leave you alone is not a fool proof solution. You have kids together that keep you connected and there is no guarantee that the treats of court or dv (or even him manipulating you by continuing to say he loves you. When he has re-partnered etc.) will stop or things will get easier.
From what you say here...he may need a good reality check...if mediation fails again, Court may well be the place to assist him with that. In other words, he won’t be reasonable and continues to threaten you with court. You take his sorry ass to court instead...no more threats of court (and you have taken control)...will also mitigate some of the dv threats as it won’t look too good for him if he continues along those lines when the behaviour can be raised before the judge. Apply in relation to children and property...
For now...stick to communications only in relation to the children, unless its an emergency, if you need to tell him something about the kids text it. If you answer a call from him and he strays from discussing the kids...politely tell him you need to go and hang up. Do your 14 year olds have mobiles?...if so, they can contact him directly?
Is the 2 year old spending time with dad?...are you by any chance supervising these visits? If info revolves around the kids there should be no reason, at this time, to correspond with his new partner...how do you know that her contact with you to discuss your ex is not a set up and being recorded?...entrapment springs to mind.
As I said, I agree your best option for now is to do the mediation and go from there. I wish you well.
Another thought police snowflake comes out of the woodwork. How about I post what I like and if you don't like it, don't read it. I am of the opinion that things like this need to be drummed into people's heads over and over again until they don't do it anymore contacting or having any contact with your ex's partner is only going to lead to trouble
Oops I did it again
How about you post what you like? And if we don't like it don't read it? Do you understand the insanity of that concept? All you have done is attack this lady for a mistake that she has already acknowledged she made and won't repeat...
Nat - you acknowledged very early on that the lesson has been learnt about responding to the ex's crap. Good on you.... And as such you don't deserve the abuse of thatbloke...
Don't worry about the mediation certificate expiring. Do mediation again with legal aid isn't a bad option. Be reasonable and they just might fund you through to court. Stay strong. But why not outline the details here and you might get some opinions about how to move things forward... So you reckon there is about a mill in assets? Is any of it a house / apartment? if so whose name is on the title?
Nat - you acknowledged very early on that the lesson has been learnt about responding to the ex's crap. Good on you.... And as such you don't deserve the abuse of thatbloke...
Don't worry about the mediation certificate expiring. Do mediation again with legal aid isn't a bad option. Be reasonable and they just might fund you through to court. Stay strong. But why not outline the details here and you might get some opinions about how to move things forward... So you reckon there is about a mill in assets? Is any of it a house / apartment? if so whose name is on the title?
You're just rude and attack people when they stand up to you. You're the worst thing that has happened to this forum. I pity your ex's.
Thanks for that, yes my boys have phones, and they are able to communicate with him as they please. Visits with the 2 yr old are not supervised. He has her 3 days a fortnight then dinner on off week, no sleepovers yet.
