WA Family Law - Appropriate Footwear for Son?

Patience · 23 January 2018

Hey all,

Thanks for the advice, it is much appreciated. I completely understand all sides. To be honest I was leaning more toward the 'don't respond side' but after giving it much thought and careful consideration I decided to respond in a very diplomatic/business like way (as I always do) and advised that "Our son is always in appropriate footwear whilst in my care. It's unfortunate that he got a splinter and I hope he's feeling better".. I then went on to say "if you don't feel that the footwear I provide is appropriate then I'm more than happy for you to provide some that you feel are more suitable"

Since the response everything has been fine, I haven't received anymore reports of splinters nor did the other parent decide to provide an alternative choice of footwear for our son at the next handover. Good result, for now.

Patience · 23 January 2018

sammy01 said:
Do you have an AVO against you? If so, then yup don't reply.... But a lose interpretation of "communication for the purpose of arranging time to spend with son' would be including conversations about any 'concerns' either parent might have about the child's welfare.... So my suggested response is still a winner...

So outta interest, 18-month-old.... What sort of time do you have in interim orders? What do you reckon you'll get at the end of this great big game that all the family can play called Family Law...
you have a long road ahead... Keep your sense of humour about you and play smart...

Hi sammy01,

The AVO is gone. Interim orders are 6 hours on weekend and 2 hours during the week in the afternoon, unsupervised, I put up an extremely strong argument that supervision was never necessary and won that battle, didn't have to complete all 8 visits.

All is going very well so far and I'm proud of the fact that I've achieved everything so far to date without the need for legal representation while the defendant has wasted tens of thousands of legal aid funds and got no where, in fact as a result of the last hearing they cancelled her funding. Everything she had/has been doing was/is not in the best interests of our son and it become alarmingly apparent to the family consultant and magistrate quite early on hence the early positive judgement in my favour.

At the end of it I hope to have equal time with my son, at what age that starts and how we progress to that I'll leave up to the courts to decide. My preference is that it's a gradual adjustment up until he's around 4 years of age.

AllForHer · 24 January 2018

Satisfying, isn't it? My husband self-represented from beginning to end while his ex spent about $25,000 on solicitors, and he ended up going from the three nights a fortnight that she wanted in her orders sought, to the equal time that he wanted in his orders sought.

As a matter of interest, their orders for equal time were implemented incrementally as well, increasing by one night every six months with equal time therefore commencing from the child's sixth birthday. Realistically, it would have been better for equal time to start at the end of her Prep year (when she was 5.5 years of age), because she was week-about with her parents through the long school holidays and it would have made sense for that to just continue, but you know, we were dealing with an unreasonable person at the time, so it was five nights for five months, then seven nights for two months, then six nights for five months, then seven nights permanently.

Also as a matter of interest, the craziness really died down a lot after equal time started. Whether that was because having equal time really diminished the power struggle, or because my husband and I welcomed a new baby into the mix, or because a magistrate in a State Court really spoon-fed her a reality check, I have no idea, but everyone is civil, even kind to each other now, which has made co-parenting a lot easier, and their daughter is flourishing in a way that she never did before when all there ever was, was conflict.

I sincerely hope you get to a point of enjoying the same outcome. Lord knows I never thought we'd get there, yet here we are. Keep up the good work.

Patience · 25 January 2018

I think being spoon fed the reality check would've done it as opposed to anything else, certainly was true in my situation.

I have another conference coming up in a couple of months then another hearing shortly after that. All going well leading up to those dates is it likely that she spend time will be increased at the next hearing?

Patience · 25 January 2018

And yes very satisfying self representing

I think I'd actually make a fairly decent family lawyer lol but then I do have a conscience and I value my sleep at night so I don't think it's the right career path for me...

sammy01 · 25 January 2018

Yep I thought of re-training... BUT what would be worse. Representing people like my ex? or taking money off poor people desperate to see their kids?

Sugardelites · 25 January 2018

Heck, can men do anything right nowadays? sorry but I have just joined, as a female, I am embarrassed by some of the things that I see parents pick arguments about.
Whatever happened to love your kids more than you hate your ex?
I would just be grateful to have my kids dad in their lives....

Good luck guys!

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