Hi all.
My de facto 5-year-old daughter was drawing pictures the other night as kids do. When asked about a strange but detailed picture, she told us that this is what daddy smokes with (very good pic of a bong). On further questioning, we decided to record her answer as the detail was shocking. She explained in full detail how daddy gets the stuff out of the cigarette puts it in a bowl with the other stuff and cuts it all up with scissors. She goes on to explain how its put in the pipe in the bottle, he lights the fire and the smoke goes in the bottom of the bottle. How his friends all take turns, how they do it 'aaallllllll day and night even when I'm having breakfast' in the lounge, the kitchen etc etc. She spoke in detail about going to friend's houses and doing it there, going to the snow and doing it there.
The detail is both shocking and amazing. The whole process is described in full (eg. He has to put his thumb on the little hole.) 13 disturbing minutes of recording.
We always knew he had a smoke, has for years (drugs). He previously had a court order not to drink or smoke in front of her and an AVO (restraining order) which has since expired. He has managed to convince my partner he would never do drugs in front of the child, but this has proven it all to be far worse then we could ever imagine.
Now what do we do? We have spoken to him and he says he won't do it in front of her again. We called DOCS (Human Services), who suggested the local courthouse, who suggested Relationships Australia, who suggested Legal Access, who then suggested Relationships Australia and they sent us back to Legal Access and we got a booking in 3 weeks time.
Trouble is, what can we do for 3 weeks? He is driving with her in the car and heavily using in front of her. Everyone just advises her to not allow her daughter to go back until custody of children court orders are in place but that's going to take a long time and who knows what he will do in that time. He has a bad temper, he believes we can't stop him from having her and is making all sorts of indirect threats. What can we do now?
Sorry to ramble but it's stressing my partner out and I thought more info the better
Thanks for any help or advice.
My de facto 5-year-old daughter was drawing pictures the other night as kids do. When asked about a strange but detailed picture, she told us that this is what daddy smokes with (very good pic of a bong). On further questioning, we decided to record her answer as the detail was shocking. She explained in full detail how daddy gets the stuff out of the cigarette puts it in a bowl with the other stuff and cuts it all up with scissors. She goes on to explain how its put in the pipe in the bottle, he lights the fire and the smoke goes in the bottom of the bottle. How his friends all take turns, how they do it 'aaallllllll day and night even when I'm having breakfast' in the lounge, the kitchen etc etc. She spoke in detail about going to friend's houses and doing it there, going to the snow and doing it there.
The detail is both shocking and amazing. The whole process is described in full (eg. He has to put his thumb on the little hole.) 13 disturbing minutes of recording.
We always knew he had a smoke, has for years (drugs). He previously had a court order not to drink or smoke in front of her and an AVO (restraining order) which has since expired. He has managed to convince my partner he would never do drugs in front of the child, but this has proven it all to be far worse then we could ever imagine.
Now what do we do? We have spoken to him and he says he won't do it in front of her again. We called DOCS (Human Services), who suggested the local courthouse, who suggested Relationships Australia, who suggested Legal Access, who then suggested Relationships Australia and they sent us back to Legal Access and we got a booking in 3 weeks time.
Trouble is, what can we do for 3 weeks? He is driving with her in the car and heavily using in front of her. Everyone just advises her to not allow her daughter to go back until custody of children court orders are in place but that's going to take a long time and who knows what he will do in that time. He has a bad temper, he believes we can't stop him from having her and is making all sorts of indirect threats. What can we do now?
Sorry to ramble but it's stressing my partner out and I thought more info the better
Thanks for any help or advice.